~ UNFAITHFULNESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

A recent event got me wondering: "What would be my response if I realize that my spouse or boyfriend who I am so in love with is cheating on me?!" Hmm....difficult one right? That's how I feel too....I really can't tell what my response will be. God help me that I don't act on impulse....

Now, imagine what it would be like, you've been married to the "supposed" love of your life for 20years, and then just recently, you realize that he/she has been cheating on you. Damn! What a gruesome thing to do.....I just can't think of it....I mean it's normal to hear stories of unfaithfulness in relationships outside marriage, but when it comes to marriage...hmmm, I wonder if I can stand it....It'll really need a lot of God's grace!!!

Here's a recent story about a woman who poured boiling water on her unfaithful husband's crotch while he was asleep: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2009/07/28/2009-07-28_she_scalds_hubby_for_his_cheatin.html. Now, she did this at 6am, so I'm wondering, what on earth must have been going through her mind all night?! Come to think of it, they've been married for 20years, so that gets me thinking, has he been cheating on her all this while, or was it something he started to do recently?

I'm wondering, what is it that a woman would do that would make her husband cheat on her? Isn't she attractive enough? Has she not been available to him?! Hmmmm....questions upon questions flood my mind....Now I'm wondering what went through her mind before she chose to carry out such act on him. She's 67 years old, and should be a grand-mum already....wonder how old her hubby is that he should still be cheating.....

About her actions, I must say I can't really blame her.....I just really don't see the reason why a woman at 67 should allow her anger lead her to such revenge on a man she's been with for 20years. I can't say I blame her hubby for cheating on her, but I must say this story should be a lesson to other guys who think they can mess with their wives in such manner.....A woman's mind is flooded with thoughts each time, sometimes we don't have enough time to think of the consequences of our actions, before we carry them out (especially when it comes to things that really get us pissed).

For me, I'll keep praying to God to give me a man that will never think of cheating on me....Even if he did it when he wasn't married, it should not cross his mind when he now already has me in his arms....

PEACE!!!

~PERFECT TIMING!!!

I just remembered this story, and I decided that it's good I share with anyone ready to listen (or read) to the end. The author of this story, I do not know, but each time I remember it, I'm reminded of how many times I forget that God has my life story written on the palm of His hands, and He has planned every part of it, but I seem to lengthen my journey here on earth by doing things that are not in His plan. Sometimes we struggle for what we cannot get, or will I say for what shouldn't be ours, and to no avail. If only we could just ask God to help us see through His own eyes, things will be a lot better....So, here goes the story...I hope you can at least get the message.

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared on the cocoon. He sat & watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

This did not happen! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.

We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!

God's timing is PERFECT! So the next time you find yourself struggling for something that is not so necessary for you at the time-being, ask yourself this "IS IT REALLY WORTH IT ?!" Then Pray to God to help you see things clearly.... What God wants for your life is worth the struggle, what He doesn't have in His plan is not worth it.

THE FUTURE BELONGS TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN THE BEAUTY OF THEIR DREAMS!!!

~ LOVE OR INFATUATION?!?!?!

So I've been thinking, what does it really mean to be in love? I've really been doing a lot of thinking these days....I've watched my environment for a while, and a lot of things I see do not cease to amuse me...


What really is love about?!

Is love all about a feeling? Is it just about a feeling you have towards something attractive?

Is it just about seeing something u value in a person, and been drawn to the person because of that?

Is love conditional? Is it affected by distance?

Is love doubtful? Does it seem unsure of how it feels?

Is love selfish? Is it out to destroy?

Is love always demanding? Does it always seek to get something from the object of affection?

Hmmm...I really wonder....So many people think they know what love is all about, but I bet, you cannot completely define love, cos "what is good for the goose might not be good for the gander".

There's a story about G(x) who seems to be in a dilemma right now. G(x) appears to be in love with A(y) and B(y)...or at least that's what they both think....Funny thing is from the stand-point of others, G(x) is actually playing some games.....Now let's see what comes out of it.

G(x) shows affection to both A(y) and B(y).....whether the affection shown to both of them is equal is known to only G(x). Both fall for it, and are now moving in a cycle...To me, it seems like "chasing each other's asses"....lol....They move in a cycle, and G(x) stands at an end watching....Sometimes, they seem to come to their senses, at other times, they seem to get back into the "emotional roller coaster". Now, what annoys me most is the fact that it is beginning to seem like all people who fall into the same group as G(x) have the same character as G(x). Well, guess it'll take someone like G(x) but with a different mindset & character to proof them wrong!!!


Hmmm...Does any part of this story seem unclear....I guess u can picture what I'm trying to talk about.....All I can say is there is a difference between love and infatuation....The three are just been carried away in a wave of infatuation, but unfortunately interpreting it as love....


Okay, I'll stop here...Just my point of view from what I have seen so far.... I pray that A(y) and B(y) come to their senses, coz it seems to be getting too late...


I'm out!!!