~WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT?!?!?!

I've come across a lot of guys who keep asking this same question "What do women/girls/ladies really want?!...It's beginning to become a rhetorical one to them. So many times, I'm disappointed to see that some guys seem to be ready to know what women really want, but they don't seem to be patient enough to find out...Hmmm...If only they could be patient, it'll not be long before they really understand the woman they're dealing(or in love) with.

So really, what do women really want? I came across an article published by a dating site, and just thought I should share it here, for the sake of those who would love to know. I'll also share my opinion about these points made by them.

Here's the article:

Dating Tips: 9 Simple Things Women Want
By YourTango.com

Besides the meaning of life and the ingredients of hot dogs, many a man has questioned, "What exactly do women want?" We're not playing coy here, we know we're complex creatures. And, true, we operate on a different wavelength than men.

But women aren't exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. The proof? We polled the YourTango staff and compiled a list of 9 simple things women want. Note: you won't find diamond rings or other fancy things anywhere on this list. While many women really do want luxury goods from men, when you break it down they are just physical representations of some of the points on this list. We promise.

1. Respect. Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies, and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. Romance. It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

3. Time. We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.

4. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day.

5. Communication. Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure. We wish we weren't, but the reality is that we often notice our wobbly thighs and forget about our gorgeous eyes. So let us know when you think we're hot. Tell us we're beautiful. It helps us feel good. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Tell us you love the lasagna we made. Notice that we cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you're grateful.

6. Consistency. This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually -- no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

7. Engagement. Of the mental kind, not the "I'm getting married in the morning" kind. You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport, or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.

8. Humor and Humility. These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

9. Challenge. Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be, or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who prod each other to meet goals -- in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits -- are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.

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So, what do I have to say about this?! I'll say it's perfectly true!!! I remember having a chit-chat with some of my male friends, and the issue of what women really want came up. Almost all of this 9points summarized above were mentioned to them(this was actually a long time ago, and this article wasn't yet published!!!). So guess this will go a long way to tell them that actually, women have a mind, and look forward to certain things in a relationship.

One more thing I'll like to add is this: Women want a man they can TRUST. Apart from being consistent, a woman wants to be able to trust her man, and also to be able to win his trust. I mean, what good is it if each time you see her with another guy, you begin to feel like she's cheating on you?! She on her own end will very much like to be sure that you aint doing anything ridiculous behind her back. Tell her everything she needs to know....Don't leave her always guessing the kind of person you are....If she sees that you tell her everything, she'll feel more comfortable telling you everything too. She should know your weaknesses and your strengths...Like, if you have a flare for beautiful ladies, she should know...Guess she'll be there to help you out on that, so you don't end up cheating on her....lol...


So for the guys out there, if you've been getting it all wrong in your relationship, or you are getting ready to be in one, this could be a good way to start. Try to see how you could inculcate these in your relationship and I bet you, you're going to have one of the best relationship ever.

I really am looking forward to seeing an article on "what men really want"...Guess we ladies are also oblivious of what guys really want. Anyone out there? Please, help out!!!


Okay, I'll stop here....Stay tuned!!!

~ UNFAITHFULNESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

A recent event got me wondering: "What would be my response if I realize that my spouse or boyfriend who I am so in love with is cheating on me?!" Hmm....difficult one right? That's how I feel too....I really can't tell what my response will be. God help me that I don't act on impulse....

Now, imagine what it would be like, you've been married to the "supposed" love of your life for 20years, and then just recently, you realize that he/she has been cheating on you. Damn! What a gruesome thing to do.....I just can't think of it....I mean it's normal to hear stories of unfaithfulness in relationships outside marriage, but when it comes to marriage...hmmm, I wonder if I can stand it....It'll really need a lot of God's grace!!!

Here's a recent story about a woman who poured boiling water on her unfaithful husband's crotch while he was asleep: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2009/07/28/2009-07-28_she_scalds_hubby_for_his_cheatin.html. Now, she did this at 6am, so I'm wondering, what on earth must have been going through her mind all night?! Come to think of it, they've been married for 20years, so that gets me thinking, has he been cheating on her all this while, or was it something he started to do recently?

I'm wondering, what is it that a woman would do that would make her husband cheat on her? Isn't she attractive enough? Has she not been available to him?! Hmmmm....questions upon questions flood my mind....Now I'm wondering what went through her mind before she chose to carry out such act on him. She's 67 years old, and should be a grand-mum already....wonder how old her hubby is that he should still be cheating.....

About her actions, I must say I can't really blame her.....I just really don't see the reason why a woman at 67 should allow her anger lead her to such revenge on a man she's been with for 20years. I can't say I blame her hubby for cheating on her, but I must say this story should be a lesson to other guys who think they can mess with their wives in such manner.....A woman's mind is flooded with thoughts each time, sometimes we don't have enough time to think of the consequences of our actions, before we carry them out (especially when it comes to things that really get us pissed).

For me, I'll keep praying to God to give me a man that will never think of cheating on me....Even if he did it when he wasn't married, it should not cross his mind when he now already has me in his arms....

PEACE!!!

~PERFECT TIMING!!!

I just remembered this story, and I decided that it's good I share with anyone ready to listen (or read) to the end. The author of this story, I do not know, but each time I remember it, I'm reminded of how many times I forget that God has my life story written on the palm of His hands, and He has planned every part of it, but I seem to lengthen my journey here on earth by doing things that are not in His plan. Sometimes we struggle for what we cannot get, or will I say for what shouldn't be ours, and to no avail. If only we could just ask God to help us see through His own eyes, things will be a lot better....So, here goes the story...I hope you can at least get the message.

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared on the cocoon. He sat & watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

This did not happen! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.

We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!

God's timing is PERFECT! So the next time you find yourself struggling for something that is not so necessary for you at the time-being, ask yourself this "IS IT REALLY WORTH IT ?!" Then Pray to God to help you see things clearly.... What God wants for your life is worth the struggle, what He doesn't have in His plan is not worth it.

THE FUTURE BELONGS TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN THE BEAUTY OF THEIR DREAMS!!!

~ LOVE OR INFATUATION?!?!?!

So I've been thinking, what does it really mean to be in love? I've really been doing a lot of thinking these days....I've watched my environment for a while, and a lot of things I see do not cease to amuse me...


What really is love about?!

Is love all about a feeling? Is it just about a feeling you have towards something attractive?

Is it just about seeing something u value in a person, and been drawn to the person because of that?

Is love conditional? Is it affected by distance?

Is love doubtful? Does it seem unsure of how it feels?

Is love selfish? Is it out to destroy?

Is love always demanding? Does it always seek to get something from the object of affection?

Hmmm...I really wonder....So many people think they know what love is all about, but I bet, you cannot completely define love, cos "what is good for the goose might not be good for the gander".

There's a story about G(x) who seems to be in a dilemma right now. G(x) appears to be in love with A(y) and B(y)...or at least that's what they both think....Funny thing is from the stand-point of others, G(x) is actually playing some games.....Now let's see what comes out of it.

G(x) shows affection to both A(y) and B(y).....whether the affection shown to both of them is equal is known to only G(x). Both fall for it, and are now moving in a cycle...To me, it seems like "chasing each other's asses"....lol....They move in a cycle, and G(x) stands at an end watching....Sometimes, they seem to come to their senses, at other times, they seem to get back into the "emotional roller coaster". Now, what annoys me most is the fact that it is beginning to seem like all people who fall into the same group as G(x) have the same character as G(x). Well, guess it'll take someone like G(x) but with a different mindset & character to proof them wrong!!!


Hmmm...Does any part of this story seem unclear....I guess u can picture what I'm trying to talk about.....All I can say is there is a difference between love and infatuation....The three are just been carried away in a wave of infatuation, but unfortunately interpreting it as love....


Okay, I'll stop here...Just my point of view from what I have seen so far.... I pray that A(y) and B(y) come to their senses, coz it seems to be getting too late...


I'm out!!!

~ WHAT IS THIS I FEEL?!?!?!

What is this I feel?
Can't seem to figure it out.

Thought it should be mutual,
But nay, it seems to be turning brutal.

The heart seems to be sinking, rather than singing,
It seems sorrowful, rather than Joyful.

Why should it be so?...I keep thinking.
When it all started, I could hear my heart ringing
Like the sound of the ancient church bells, it was jingling.

My heart tells me it's for real,
But somehow I'm not sure I'm ready for the deal,
For to accept the deal, will require a seal.

She does not say the words,
But her actions...they improvise for her lack of words.

Her words indicate lack of interest,
But her actions....Oh! They betray her interest.

I've got to be patient, she seems to say,
For my emotions I want not to sway.

What is this I feel, I repeatedly ask
It sure has been an endless task
Oh Lord! Rescue me from this clueless mask!!!

WHEN LOVE ACHES!!!
xoxo

~ UPDATE!!!

Been away for 3days & 2nights...Was at Malaysia Bible Seminary, Rawang for my Uni's Christian Fellowship Camp. It was a very wonderful experience, as we all had fun playing and fellowshipping with each other.

I wish I could give details of it, but I can't right now. I'll just add photos to my album, hoping that that will do. Feeling a bit light-headed after something that happened today. I hope to be able to document it later when I feel better. For now, I need more of God's grace to guide me through my current state.

Got to go to bed now. Not feeling too strong.

~ A MEMORABLE DAY!!!

Today is one of the days I'll never forget. Went out with 2 of my close friends (GT &IB). We needed time and space to catch up, so I suggested the outing, and ensured that it was only the 3 of us that went out.

We spent the whole day at Berjaya Times Square, Kuala Lumpur. The trio set out as early as 12:30pm, so we could have enough time outside before the night came. We were at Kenny Roger's Roasters for lunch, then to Como's World Theme Park for some fun, after which we had dinner at KFC, then went on to watch a movie at Golden Screen Cinemas.

It was my first time trying KRR, and I must say I think I like their food too, but not to be compared to my NANDOS. NANDOS spices are so "Unique". From KRR, we went on to get movie tickets, and amongst the movies for that day, we all felt "YES MAN" was a very good choice, so we got the ticket for it, and had to spend the next 4hrs + at the Park and waiting for 7:10pm since this was the time the movie would be showing.

Our experience at the park is one of the many things that makes this day a memorable one. We got the chance to get on the roller coaster there, tried the Car Ride, and also the DNA Mixer. The Entry Ticket price was pretty expensive - RM38 per person (Adult price), datz about 11USD per person, so we paid RM114 for the 3 of us. The roller coaster experience was cool, and so was the Car ride. However, the DNA Mixer spoiled the day, coz not only was it a very dangerous ride where we were tossed about in very weird directions, but also the tossing was done for longer than usual...Can't really figure out why the guy made it that way for us. At the end of it, we were so dizzy that we couldn't get to play any other games, plus IB threw-up because she felt so dizzy that she couldn't help it. We went on for Dinner at KFC, and then to the movies. The movie choice was perfect for us. YES MAN - Starring Jim Carrey is such a lovely movie. We really enjoyed it.

We all got back home at about 11:30pm, feeling exhausted but happy that our day went well. Indeed it was a memorable one. I'll add the photos to my album as soon as I can, but for now though I feel really exhausted, I've got to go on and do my packing for CF Camp 2moro. I hope it's going to be fun too.

~ PLANS FOR SEMESTER BREAK!!!

Finally exams are over, and the next I find myself thinking of is what to do for the next 1week break. Not that it's a lot of time, but there seems to be many things I want to do within limited time. Well, I've already planned an outing with two of my very close friends. It's been a long time we spent time alone with each other, and we seem to be getting more distant away from each other as the days go by. I'm thinking it's going to be some fun time for us, since we'll be having lunch and dinner outside, and we'll be going to the fun park...Well, let's see how it goes. The main idea is for us to have fun while hanging out, and to be able to reminiscence of the good old times. I'm really looking forward to it, and I know that it's going to turn out fine.

The rest of the break will be spent in a camp, and in other places I haven't yet figured out. Can't wait to have fun!!!

~ WHY DO GUYS TEND TO BE SO POSSESSIVE?!?!?!

I've been pondering on this question, but it seems to be rhetorical to me...Haven't been able to figure out an answer for it...Why do most guys tend to be possessive....Now, don't get me wrong, but I think this is the opinion or will I say conclusion I have reached after several experiences with some close friends who are guys...

I've got a lot of male friends...not because I'm so interested in guys, but because I find myself being more comfortable hanging out with guys...I kinda shy away from hanging out with girls coz of some "girly stuffs" that I can put-up with. Don't mis-interprete what I'm trying to say, I'm in no way a T-Boy...I'm just free-minded around guys, and that's all about it....


Now to what makes me see guys as possessive, I realize that a high percentage of my male friends act jealously when they see me with some other guy (even if the guy is no stranger to them). Funny thing is, I keep wondering, why is it so?? I'm in no way in a serious relationship with any of them, and I don't intend to be coz i'm not looking out for one....I try to interprete their gestures in the mildest way that I can, but I find it difficult to. Sometime ago, I had no choice, but to take out time to ask some of them personally, and to my utter surprise, they all had the same thing to say about it. Here's the conclusion "If a guy loves a girl, He'll not be happy if he sees that she seems to be very comfortable with another guy". Now the "being comfortable" has nothing to do with being in a serious or even flirty relationship with the guy in question.

Now to the other side of it, most of these guys actaully want to mix-up with all the other girls, but do not want the girl they hold dear to their heart to mix-up with other guys. They want to know the girl's every move, but do not care to tell her where they go all the time (sometimes they do, at other times they don't).... To me, this is pretty "Ironical", and difficult for me to put up with. Do guys really think "it's a man's world"? Shouldn't ladies have a say sometimes?? I'm not so much of a Jealous lover (at least I know). I believe in allowing my man do whatever he feels is best for him, as long as it's not "illegal"...I mean in my own terms. So why on earth would a guy not want to see a girl he loves happy? Why would he always feel that there is something wrong with her hanging out with other guys??? I really get freaked out, coz I'm still trying to get a concrete answer to it!!!

So the question remains..... "WHY DO GUYS TEND TO BE POSSESSIVE???"

~ AUCTIONING VIRGINITY ONLINE???

It's really very disappointing to see what this world is turning into...Just recently, I read this post on Fox News that talks about a 22-year-old girl who is auctioning her virginity for $3.7million...Now datz really hilarious you might say, but I think there is more to it.

Now, come to think of it, I really wonder what on earth would make her do that...I mean, if she has manged to stay that way to this extent/age (after all so many people get to lose their virginity at an age earlier than that), then why can't she remain that way until she meets Mr. Right?

Well...well, different people have their own opinion about issues of virginity...but for me, I find this really humiliating. No matter how desperate one may be for money, or whatever reason it is, I don't think auctioning one's virginity online should be an option...Now that's my opinion okay??

I believe there a lot of people, especially girls out there who wish they hadn't lost their virginity...especially when they think of the person to whom they gave it out....talk more of if it has to be a stranger....I mean someone who gets the information online and bids for it...Well, like I said, this is still my opinion...I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion...But, I'll love to ask this question to you who is reading this blog entry....What do you think about this? What'z your opinion about this auctioning of virginity online???

P.S: To see original story, click here http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,480037,00.html

~ 1ST DAY OF EXAM!!!

Exams have finally started....Had my first paper today! How was it??? Well, it was supposed to be very good, except that there were a lot of mistakes in the typing or will I say the setting of the questions. Can't really tell who made the mistake (whether lecturer or typist).... Lecturer didn't come to make the necessary corrections on the questions until over an hour into the exam...probably that was when he was called by the invigilator...can't really tell....

Almost everyone was freaked out coz lecturer's presence didn't make any much difference. It only made Us get angrier at the end of the day. After the exam, there was a suggestion that everyone in class should write to the Dean of Faculty, reporting the case of the exam papers to him. So many reasons why it was right to do so:

1. The questions didn't seem like they were proof-read before they were printed.

2. When he was called to come and make corrections on the questions, he did it specifically for those who called him to their side, rather than for the whole class to hear. With this, those who didn't get the opportunity to call him to their side ended up answering the questions using the values(supposedly wrong) they saw on the paper....

3. The mistakes in the questions reminded us of how disorganized this lecturer had been throughout the semester...never giving us lecture notes that were well-structured, Coursework had a lot of formatting errors, and he even had to modify one of them, and extend deadline coz of modification.

4. We were not given the opportunity to evaluate lecturers at the end of the semester....rather we were asked to evaluate the module...Was this what we needed to do??....NO! Not at all...I mean who gives a damn about the module....It's the lecturer that makes the module what it is for the students...the impression comes from the efficiency or will I say competency of the lecturer.

Well, what did I do about it? I felt it would be better I send a mail to the lecturer instead, and CC Dean of Faculty. Better that way, so it doesn't feel like we are blackmailing him, and also, so that the Dean will be aware of the situation at hand....

Hmmm....I'm waiting for a response from him..Hopefully he'll put the mistakes made in the questions into consideration when marking the scripts, else we stand chances of losing a lot of marks.... Well..., the rest is in God's hands!!!

It is well!!!

~ GEARING UP!!!

Yeah! It's Saturday again...And what did I do today...emmm....let's see...I did practically nothing for self. Had to go to Church earlier than usual for camp planning committee meeting, and then for Worship team Practice. It was really a hectic one for me, especially because I went to bed pretty late last night...or will I say at the dawn of this morning, and had to be up before 11am, and prepare to set out for church at 12:30pm. Well, what do I say...It's God's work, and that's why I cannot just hold back from doing what pleases Him besides, I'll be excused of duties in worship team until after my exams. Not that I'm so looking forward to it, but I think it's a wise thing to do, so that I can prepare adequately.

Yay! I'm counting down to the start of my 1st semester's exam. How do I feel??? Emmm....I really can't tell... Got some mixed feelings especially because I'll be sitting for 5 modules, and I really haven't done much in terms of preparations. I'm trusting God for the best anywayz, I know He'll make all things work according to His plans...

I'll be doing a lot of studying for the next 3weeks. Can't wait to be done with the exams. Well, I'll just gear up, keep my fingers crossed, do all I need to do, and trust God for the rest....

~ HAPI NU YR!!!

Yeah! It's a new year. So grateful to God for making it possible. I'm glad to see this year 2009.

Today was really a wonderful one for me. Spent time out with friends. We went to KLCC Twin Towers for New Year's lunch...lol.... Yeah, we had to take a train all the way down, and the journey seemed longer than usual...Or maybe it was just me being a little bit impatient for it.

When we got there and my friends were debating about where to have lunch, I quickly suggested my favorite NANDOS. Three of them hadn't tried NANDOS before, so I chided in the opportunity to help them make their orders.....ha ha!! The food was very nice (as usual), and we had some real nice time together. The pictures are yet to be given to me. I'll have to add them to my album when they get to me.

From KLCC, we went to Mid Valley Mega Mall. We had some more fun, and I returned to school at about 12midnight, feeling very exhausted, but pleased with how I spent my day.....Yeah! I needed to have fun, coz I'll be sitting my ass down to study for the next 3weeks for my exams this Semester...

Ok..got to go now...Feeling very sleepy already, and it's midnight here...