~Partial fulfillment??

Partial Fulfillment huh? Well, it didn't seem like one....
I bless the Lord!

Just a reminder that the other "partial" aspect is yet to be fulfilled.

So help me God.

~SOMETHING ABOUT LOVE

Love is not manipulative...

it does not seek its own.

Where manipulation exists, love should be questioned.

Love is the reason Christ died...

Love is what I am called to show.

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” - Ann Landers (American Advice Columnist, 1918-2002).

~DIMINISHING LOVE???

Sometime ago, the sight of you made my heart leap...

the mere thought of you brought a smile to my face...

your every word seemed to linger on my ears...

your face like a picture on the walls of my mind.

But now...I dunno how I feel...

thoughts of you bring this "uneasy" feeling...

hearing your voice makes me want to melt in anguish...

not sure if I can stand looking at your face.

Seems like a case of DIMINISHING LOVE.

~THE READING OF YOUR BIOGRAPHY

How will you feel if your biography is read in your presence?

How will you feel if a book containing all that you've ever done is opened...

and its contents read before you and many others with you?

Pause....think....will your goood deeds outweigh the bad....

and you be proud to hear/know that??

or will you be left with no choice than to bury your head....

and be saddened with regrets about the way you have lived??? 

Hmmmm....still thinking on this....really can't say!!!

~WHY I DO WHAT I DO!!!

I give...
Not because I want to be given back,
but because I see the need to do so.

I lend a helping hand...
Not because I want to be helped in return,
but because someone is in need of it.

I smile...
Not because I am in the mood to smile,
but because that smile might just be a "panacea" to a hurting heart.

I love...
Not because I want to be loved back,
but because it's my FATHER's nature,
The GREATEST GIFT OF ALL.

~MY NAME IS PRIDE!

My name is Pride. I am a Cheater.

I cheat you of your GOD-GIVEN DESTINY...
because you demand your own way.

I cheat you of CONTENTMENT...
because you "deserve better than this".

I cheat you of KNOWLEDGE ...
because you already know it all.

I cheat you of HEALING...
because you are too full of me to forgive.

I cheat you of HOLINESS...
because you refuse to admit when you're wrong.

I cheat you of VISION...
because you'd rather look in the mirror,
than look out a window.

I cheat you of GENUINE FRIENDSHIP...
because nobody's going to know the real you.

I cheat you of LOVE...
because real romance demands sacrifice.

I cheat you of GREATNESS IN HEAVEN...
because you refuse to wash another's feet on earth.

I cheat you of GOD'S GLORY.
because I convince you to seek your own.

My name is PRIDE. I am a CHEATER.

You like me because you think I'm always looking out for you.
Untrue.
I'm looking to make a fool of you.

God has so much for you, I admit, but don't worry.....
If you stick with me...You'll never know.

God's Wisdom transforms us from the inside out, and then through us, transforms the world!!!

Copyright TSPOON93@aol.com

~ TOSSED ABOUT BY INDIFFERENCE!!!

Oh yeah, it's been a really long while since I wrote something....I'm sitting right here in my room, trying to study, but it's quite unfortunate that I don't seem to feel the vibes for study right now. I'm reading about Motivation. It's one wonderful topic in a module I took up from The University of Nottingham School of Management....a year 1 module though! :-) Funny, I'm studying about motivation, yet I don't feel motivated to study....lol...Well, that's about my present mood!!!

So what about Indifference? What's this thing about Indifference I want to talk about? I was talking to a friend last time, who told me that I seem to act indifferent to certain things even when it's obvious that they bother me so much....Well, I really don't know how the chap came about such opinion about me, but one thing I know is that most times, when I try to make certain things work, and they seem not to be turning in the right direction, I tend to start ignoring them, acting like they never existed.

Call that escapism? Well, not exactly.....It's just like having a bump on your head, and trying to pretend that it isn't there....ignoring the pains when it comes up....like telling yourself "yes, I feel the pains, but I aint gonna respond"...lol....:P

Well, I know that by now, someone might be thinking "Okay, what on earth is she talking about?". What has all this talk got to do with the title of this post? Now, what I've been wondering is this: Does trying to ignore certain problems mean that you should see something wrong in yourself and refuse to change it? I get so pissed whenever I hear people say "That's me, I aint gonna change...there aint no changing me!!!".

For those reading, this might not make any sense to you but if there's anything you should keep in mind, it is this - Don't act indifferent about certain things about you that you obviously need to work on. It may be attitude, habits etc. Indifference works sometimes, but please...please, don't be tossed about by Indifference....Be sure of what you want to change, what you have to change, and maybe how you want to go about changing it. I'm sure the world would become a better place if every one of us tries to apply this to our lives....I'm doing the same on my end!!!

HAPPY LABOUR DAY!!!

UPDATES!! :-)

Yeaaahoooo!!!

I've been away for quite a long while....A lot has happened during this long while....I'm sure gonna be updating soon...For my ardent readers, you might not have to wait too long......Yeah, I've been bogged down with a lot for sometime now...Final year in Uni is sure no joke. Anywayz, I've decided for sure that I'm gonna be blogging for leisure...A sure way to keep the stress away, and satisfy my creative mind.

Stay tuned! :-)

~WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT?!?!?!

I've come across a lot of guys who keep asking this same question "What do women/girls/ladies really want?!...It's beginning to become a rhetorical one to them. So many times, I'm disappointed to see that some guys seem to be ready to know what women really want, but they don't seem to be patient enough to find out...Hmmm...If only they could be patient, it'll not be long before they really understand the woman they're dealing(or in love) with.

So really, what do women really want? I came across an article published by a dating site, and just thought I should share it here, for the sake of those who would love to know. I'll also share my opinion about these points made by them.

Here's the article:

Dating Tips: 9 Simple Things Women Want
By YourTango.com

Besides the meaning of life and the ingredients of hot dogs, many a man has questioned, "What exactly do women want?" We're not playing coy here, we know we're complex creatures. And, true, we operate on a different wavelength than men.

But women aren't exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. The proof? We polled the YourTango staff and compiled a list of 9 simple things women want. Note: you won't find diamond rings or other fancy things anywhere on this list. While many women really do want luxury goods from men, when you break it down they are just physical representations of some of the points on this list. We promise.

1. Respect. Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies, and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. Romance. It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

3. Time. We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.

4. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day.

5. Communication. Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure. We wish we weren't, but the reality is that we often notice our wobbly thighs and forget about our gorgeous eyes. So let us know when you think we're hot. Tell us we're beautiful. It helps us feel good. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Tell us you love the lasagna we made. Notice that we cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you're grateful.

6. Consistency. This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually -- no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

7. Engagement. Of the mental kind, not the "I'm getting married in the morning" kind. You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport, or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.

8. Humor and Humility. These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

9. Challenge. Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be, or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who prod each other to meet goals -- in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits -- are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.

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So, what do I have to say about this?! I'll say it's perfectly true!!! I remember having a chit-chat with some of my male friends, and the issue of what women really want came up. Almost all of this 9points summarized above were mentioned to them(this was actually a long time ago, and this article wasn't yet published!!!). So guess this will go a long way to tell them that actually, women have a mind, and look forward to certain things in a relationship.

One more thing I'll like to add is this: Women want a man they can TRUST. Apart from being consistent, a woman wants to be able to trust her man, and also to be able to win his trust. I mean, what good is it if each time you see her with another guy, you begin to feel like she's cheating on you?! She on her own end will very much like to be sure that you aint doing anything ridiculous behind her back. Tell her everything she needs to know....Don't leave her always guessing the kind of person you are....If she sees that you tell her everything, she'll feel more comfortable telling you everything too. She should know your weaknesses and your strengths...Like, if you have a flare for beautiful ladies, she should know...Guess she'll be there to help you out on that, so you don't end up cheating on her....lol...


So for the guys out there, if you've been getting it all wrong in your relationship, or you are getting ready to be in one, this could be a good way to start. Try to see how you could inculcate these in your relationship and I bet you, you're going to have one of the best relationship ever.

I really am looking forward to seeing an article on "what men really want"...Guess we ladies are also oblivious of what guys really want. Anyone out there? Please, help out!!!


Okay, I'll stop here....Stay tuned!!!

~ UNFAITHFULNESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

A recent event got me wondering: "What would be my response if I realize that my spouse or boyfriend who I am so in love with is cheating on me?!" Hmm....difficult one right? That's how I feel too....I really can't tell what my response will be. God help me that I don't act on impulse....

Now, imagine what it would be like, you've been married to the "supposed" love of your life for 20years, and then just recently, you realize that he/she has been cheating on you. Damn! What a gruesome thing to do.....I just can't think of it....I mean it's normal to hear stories of unfaithfulness in relationships outside marriage, but when it comes to marriage...hmmm, I wonder if I can stand it....It'll really need a lot of God's grace!!!

Here's a recent story about a woman who poured boiling water on her unfaithful husband's crotch while he was asleep: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2009/07/28/2009-07-28_she_scalds_hubby_for_his_cheatin.html. Now, she did this at 6am, so I'm wondering, what on earth must have been going through her mind all night?! Come to think of it, they've been married for 20years, so that gets me thinking, has he been cheating on her all this while, or was it something he started to do recently?

I'm wondering, what is it that a woman would do that would make her husband cheat on her? Isn't she attractive enough? Has she not been available to him?! Hmmmm....questions upon questions flood my mind....Now I'm wondering what went through her mind before she chose to carry out such act on him. She's 67 years old, and should be a grand-mum already....wonder how old her hubby is that he should still be cheating.....

About her actions, I must say I can't really blame her.....I just really don't see the reason why a woman at 67 should allow her anger lead her to such revenge on a man she's been with for 20years. I can't say I blame her hubby for cheating on her, but I must say this story should be a lesson to other guys who think they can mess with their wives in such manner.....A woman's mind is flooded with thoughts each time, sometimes we don't have enough time to think of the consequences of our actions, before we carry them out (especially when it comes to things that really get us pissed).

For me, I'll keep praying to God to give me a man that will never think of cheating on me....Even if he did it when he wasn't married, it should not cross his mind when he now already has me in his arms....

PEACE!!!